Saturday, August 6, 2016

Wolves in Sheep's Clothing

                                                                                                                 Photo credits: Pexels

Wolves in Sheep's Clothes

By nature, a man is designed to protect and provide for the female in his life. One of the things I wish I could get across to young women is to look at how a man treats her to determine how he feels about her. A man who loves or cares for a female will never ask her to sell or do drugs for him, serve jail/prison time for him, sell her body, make ‘drops,’ cook drugs, store his illegal ‘stuff’ in or around her home, or any other thing that would endanger her wellbeing or safety, or that would damage her soul, her self-respect, or her self-esteem. A man will work three jobs if he has to, in order to provide for himself and his loved ones, not use some female to come up.
Let’s not forget to mention that a man who cares for her will not ask her to indulge in sexual acts that demean, degrade, or make her feel ashamed or dirty. Too many of our young women are engaging in soul-damaging acts just to have some guy in her life. But predators and opportunists exist on every corner, in every school, in every neighborhood, on every social media site. We’ve got to teach our girls what to look for, so that when some smooth talking guy comes flashing his smile and selling wolf tickets, she’ll see him for the predator that he is and run in the opposite direction, before he ruins her life. We’ve got to do better at building and instilling a sense of self-worth, self-esteem, and appropriate boundaries so that our ladies aren’t so prone to tactics of the enemy who comes posting up with big muscles, a deep voice, and talks of grandeur.


I’m not sure what’s sadder, the fact that so many young ladies get caught up and damaged by these predators, or that the men get on social media or with their friends and brag about what they made some girl do, caring nothing at all for how her life has been affected by the games he plays. After she has served her purpose in his plan, he moves on to the next prey as if it’s no big deal. There are so many men who are not gay, but who just don’t like women. They act out their hatred on the female species with aggression, disrespect, and negative life altering actions. And there are so many love starved females who take any attention shown to them as something positive. But a predator can spot a wounded prey from miles away. He zeroes in on her like a missile and goes in for the kill.
I know that not all men hurt or prey on women. Some men actually chose to use their power for good. We’ve got to be able to spot the difference between the two, so that we can teach our future generations. We’ve got to know that it’s okay to put ourselves first and that it’s okay to say no to that which takes us off of our moral, spiritual, ethical compass, or that makes us not be proud of the person we see in the mirror. We’ve got to know, as females, that we are worth it…even if it means being alone for a little while longer. Having a piece of a man is NOT better than having no man at all…no matter what outside influences say. We’ve got to love ourselves enough to not throw the pearls of our lives before swine. We’ve got to know that we are worth nothing less than the best…and then stand our ground until we get what we deserve.


Changing lives one word at a time…Tumika

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Tumika Patrice Cain is an award-winning author, media personality, and motivational speaker. Through her imprint, Inkscriptions Publishing & Media Group, she provides high quality, affordable, mentor-based publishing services to indie authors, as well as inspired, empowering messages of hope and abundance through her media outlets. Her works can be found in many publications, including Fresh Lifestyle Magazine. To learn more about Tumika, her books, and her services visit the following websites. http://www.TumikaPatrice.com and http://www.InkscriptionsPMG.com