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Feeling Blessed
I wrote this back in April, but through the busyness of living, I forgot to post it. I'm sure there are many of you who can relate to the words in this post. Know that your efforts are not in vain and that eventually you will receive back all of the positive seeds that you've sown. Be blessed and make today a great day...ON PURPOSE! Tumika
I am
having a transparent moment right now.
This is for those people who have been selflessly giving of themselves
to others for years with no real payback for those efforts. I just want to let you know that your day IS
coming. Don’t stop doing what you’re
doing. At the appointed time, your
efforts will connect with your need and all of a sudden help will come out of
the woodworks for you.
This is
the week of my big book signing and poetry reading. After a number of difficulties and obstacles
with my first book, I decided to take a different route with my next book. Deciding to take my efforts to a place I love
and that has always shown me love, I reached out to some friends in
Cleveland. They were not just willing to
be a part of the event, they were happily willing to put in effort to help me
plan it remotely, because of financial challenges I was going through at the
time.
These
friends who I have known for more than 15 years called in their friends, made
connections, referred me to others, gave countless feedback to my many queries, and put the kind of effort into making this event wonderful, just as they would
have if it had been their own.
I was
out running errands and picking up items for the event. I made a random call to the venue owner to
check on something. She answers the
phone and says “Hi, Tumika. Guess who’s
right here in front of me.” It was
Vince, the host. He was there checking
out the space, doing mic checks and whatever else to make sure that all would
be well for the show on Saturday. If I
hadn’t called her, I never would have known, because he would not have told
me. I immediately felt overwhelmed. I finished my shopping, walked back to the
car and then sat there for a moment.
And I
have to tell you, tears of gratitude were cascading down my cheeks. The moment she told me he was there, I had a
quick flashback of every man who had been in my life in some sort of
significant role. There was the one who
faked a cold so he wouldn’t have to help me move. The one who charged me to move. The ones who stood me up. Lied
to me. Cheated on me. Shall I go on? In that moment, it all became so very
clear. Now mind you, this is not a man I
am intimate with, nor have we ever been.
We aren’t “kicking it.” He’s not
my boo thang or any such thing. He is my
friend, and in such a simple gesture, showed more care and love for me than any
of the others ever had. Then all of a
sudden, it became abundantly clear to me why none of the others made the
cut. If they weren’t ready to make
selfless gestures to help the woman in their life, why were they even there?
Ladies,
if the man taking up space in your life is not improving the quality of it; if
he is not making sacrifices of time, talent, or treasure to help you make your
dreams come true; if he has nothing more to bring to the table than a list of
selfish desires and requests from you – why is he really even there? You can do bad by yourself. And real talk, even mind blowing sex is not
enough to keep a man around if that is the only thing of value you are getting
from him. I know it gets lonely. It gets hard, too. For we were not built to have to be both man
and woman, and our lives are far more difficult without a man there to take his
proper place. However, it is too high of
a price to pay allowing someone to take up emotional and/or physical space in
your life who won’t do his part. Move
that dead weight out of the way so that the real deal came come in. You deserve a man who knows his role, who
understands his purpose and who is not afraid to fulfill it.
Changing
lives one word at a time…Tumika Patrice Cain
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Tumika Patrice Cain is an award-winning author, media personality,
and motivational speaker. Through her imprint, Inkscriptions Publishing &
Media Group, she provides high quality, affordable, mentor-based publishing
services to indie authors, as well as inspired, empowering messages of hope and
abundance through her media outlets. Her works can be found in many
publications, including Fresh Lifestyle Magazine. To learn more about Tumika,
her books, and her services visit the following websites. http://www.TumikaPatrice.com
and http://www.InkscriptionsPMG.com
