Lover of My Soul

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Lover of My Soul

I am not married, yet I have been a bride for eight years and counting…for I am the bride of Christ.  This gentle Lover of my soul who tends so carefully, diligently, succinctly to the daily needs of my person.  All my life I have wanted to be married, but have to laugh when I am barely a wife to the Husband that I already have.  If I cannot give Him everything He requires, how then do I think I’ll be able to give an earthly, flawed human all that he needs when it all comes from my First Love?

Ours is an ongoing love affair beginning before I ever had a conscious thought of Him.  He picked me even before I was born, laying colorful gems and stones in place, setting the stage for our extended courtship.

So many times I looked into the face of my Betrothed, not knowing Who or What I saw, but He smiled and let me discover things my own way.  At times He had to have grown tired, even frustrated, perhaps wounded, as I sought love in the arms of another, but He is a patient man.  He tells me He knew I would come…that I was worth the wait.

I am humbled in His presence.  Sometimes realizing exactly what I’ve been blessed with – so awed by His beauty and magnificence I want to run away and hide.  Other times so blessed by that same magnificence I want to run into His arms and never leave.

He looks at me with the gentle eyes of a lover who sees His prize and knows her worth, saying, “Beloved, strip naked in my presence.  Do not hide yourself from me behind titles, fear, feelings of unworthiness, shame.  I see you.  It is you that I want.  Remember that I picked you!”  And I, entranced by the intensity of the look in His eyes begin a slow striptease, taking off layer upon of layer of whatever would dare stand between me and the gentle touch of my Lover.  And for a time I am there, naked in His sight and He smiles, enraptured.  Languishing in my beauty as if seeing me for the first time.  He says He never tires of seeing me.  Says he wishes to share in such sweet communion with me always.  Each time He sees me, He is reminded of how much He loves me, how much I mean to Him, how there is no price too high for Him to pay for me…and already has paid.  Loves me so much that He creates new and tender mercies for me each and every morning.

I awake to the feel of His breath upon my cheek.  It is the soft whisper of my name upon His lips that stirs me into consciousness as I begin yet another day.  He says, “Beloved, do not begin your day without our special time together.  Your prayers rising to me are as sweet as Frankincense.  I relish in our time together.  It is in those moments before you face the day that I want to prepare you, strengthen you for what lies ahead…for I am able to see what you cannot see.  Talk with me, my Beloved.  Let us have the most precious of moments together.  Lift your voice in song to me.  I never feel so close to you as when you are praising me.  Yes, I remember now, why I chose you.  You are beautiful to me.  There are no sweeter words spoken than the sound of My name upon your lips.  You are my beautiful bride.  Tell me how much I mean to you.  Show me how much I mean to you.”

Loving Him isn’t duty and it isn’t a job even though it does require much from me.  It is the greatest desire of my heart.  I have looked for Him all my life and He has always been right here…waiting on me to see Him and to love Him with a fraction of the love He has always had for me.

Sometimes the intensity of His love is too much for me to take.  And me being me, I back away.  Get lax in my time alone with Him.  I never see myself so clearly as when we are alone, face to face.  I am not always ready to see all that there is of me to see.  The more I give of myself to Him, the more of me He wants.  While I know it is best, it is right, it is good…I am not always ready to give what He is asking for when He asks and so I run.  Sometimes a little, other times a lot, until the ugly, reality of life becomes visible and it is revealed to me just why He asked for what I so selfishly held on to.  I miss the protecting, soothing embrace of my Lover, Husband of mine.  Then it is I, without reservation, who comes running back, dropping layers along the way – yearning once again to be naked and unashamed in His sight.

The longer we are married, the shorter the separations are between us.  You see, I cannot, will not, live without Him.  He completes me and I am whole only in His presence.  I am no longer a skittish, squeamish child bride, but am instead becoming a mature woman in the arms of my Husband who sets the stage for me to be all that He created me to be.  He is my daily bread and protector of all things concerning me.

His unchanging ways comfort me and bring about stability in a world where the only thing that is constant is change.  He has never altered one word that He’s ever spoken to me.  It comforts me to know that He never will.

We are one, becoming one mind as I put aside the things of the world, rising in elevation to meet Him where He is.  We have one purpose – to bring others, joining them in the kingdom, preparing them for their own sacred marriage ceremony with Him until we all become one body.

Changing lives one word at a time...Tumika

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Tumika Patrice Cain is an award-winning author, media personality, and motivational speaker. Through her imprint, Inkscriptions Publishing & Media Group, she provides high quality, affordable, mentor-based publishing services to indie authors, as well as inspired, empowering messages of hope and abundance through her media outlets. Her works can be found in many publications, including Fresh Lifestyle Magazine. To learn more about Tumika, her books, and her services visit the following websites. http://www.TumikaPatrice.com and http://www.InkscriptionsPMG.com

The Call (for Michael Brown and other Casualties)

The Call (for Michael Brown & Other Casualties)

A mother grieves.  A father is left brokenhearted. A city is divided.  And a nation waits with baited breath to see how it all turns out.  All of this after an 18 year old man-child is gunned down on the streets of America by those whose car tags say “Protect and Serve.”  But who, in actuality, are they protecting?  For certainly it is not those of black and brown skin in this land, as time and again we are racially profiled, falsely accused and almost always assumed guilty until proven innocent….if we are ever given a chance to prove that innocence.  As the lifeless body of Michael Brown, lay shot and uncovered in the street for hours, the people were met with aggression and intolerance by law enforcement, as our rights to gather and for peaceful protest were ignored.  Our first amendment rights ignored, then violated.

The message was clear: You are not welcome here.  Your life has no meaning.  Know your place.  You are expendable.  No matter what we do to you, accept it and don’t raise your voice against it.  You are just another nigger and don’t you ever forget it.  And we heard it – loud and clear.  It’s message traveling through the airwaves like the sound of light.  To a nation it said: Wake UP!  To a people it said: Things have not changed, no matter how things appear on the outside.

We have become complacent.  Confused even.  From the time of our entry into this land through the hundreds of years leading to the Civil Rights Movement, as a people, we knew our place.  We were under no misconceptions that we were looked at as less than second class citizens.  That our road would be harder.  That no matter what we had, how much wealth we amassed, we were still seen as worthless.  We understood how to navigate this world we’d been thrust into, born into.  We understood the necessity of sticking together as a people.  We knew that we were not safe.  We knew to look within and to each other for help.  We knew to keep our hands laced in the hands of God for wisdom and for protection.

But somehow we’ve forgotten.  Perhaps it was the ability to live in their neighborhoods.  Or maybe it was the openness we could flaunt our interracial relationships,  marriages, children.  Who knows….maybe it was being able to assimilate their schools, work alongside them or join their exclusive groups.  Oh….perhaps it was being able to spend our hard earned dollars in their stores, helping them to amass a fortune.  Whatever it was, it’s like we’ve forgotten that underneath it all, no matter how calm things appear on the surface, we are not them.

 

Our recent successes have clouded our eyes, made us think that our degrees made us better than the mother on welfare.  Our good diction and ability to speak the king’s English set us higher than our more flat or “ebonics” speaking brothers and sisters.  Our fancy clothes, spit shined shoes and 401K’s made us think we were better than those who made their living on the streets of urban America.  Hidden behind stock options, corner offices, initials behind our names and McMansions, we have forgotten that there is an entire system in place that is not meant for us.  Was never meant for us.  Oh don’t get me wrong. I am not in any way saying that we should not work for and desire a better life.  That is certainly not my point.

It started me to thinking.  Why is there such hostility between blacks and whites?  Specifically, why are black people targeted and consistently mistreated by white Americans in this country?  Why the double standard?  And it hit me like a ton of bricks.  Because we were brought here as slaves and they never expected to have to deal with us as equals.  As we know their system, their plan lasted for generations, hundreds of years.  Since the Civil War and our supposed “freedom” that it granted us, they’ve been trying to re-enslave us one step, one person, one system at a time.  It makes me wonder are we oblivious to what is going on right around us?

The overall plight of my people in this country breaks my heart.  Again, I find myself asking, don’t we see?  The same drugs we are catching convictions for are the same drugs they infiltrated into our communities.  Shall I remind us that we had no boats, planes or other means of being able to get that stuff here?  But they played on our poverty and lack knowing that at some point the survival of the fittest would kick in and folks would be willing to sell father, mother, sister, brother, neighbor, and child to make a fast buck and give themselves a chance to rise up.  Even if it meant destroying our families, our communities, and killing each other to stop their individual suffering.

Through it, they have managed to put us back in a form of slavery – this time instead of selling off our sons, brothers and fathers, now they kill them, we kill them, or they are incarcerated, leaving yet another generation to have to fend for itself.  Through it, they have managed to take even the mother figure and have her working so hard at so many hours there is no one to raise her children or she gets hooked on the very substances that infuse the fiber of urban living. Another generation is lost – this time to incarceration, our children being put in a completely inept foster care system, more poverty as young women have babies out of wedlock with no fathers to help raise them.  Despite our successes, none of us is immune to its effects. 

For a while we were complacent.  Comfortable even.  Now the unarmed teen running to the store murdered for being in the wrong place at the wrong time and the famed historian arrested by cops at his home share the same story as the female professor groped on the campus streets where she worked like a common whore and the unarmed man choked to death while handcuffed on the city streets.  And the common denominator is their race.  No one is off limits.  We can no longer convince ourselves that it’s “their problem.”  As a people, it’s our problem.

It’s time to put aside the petty differences of territory; of she looked at me wrong; of he stepped on my shoe and disrespected me and realize that we need each other.  There is no demilitarized zone.  This whole attitude of us four and no more, and “I ain’t looking out for the next man” is the very division that is used against us to defeat our own people.  Any of these scenarios could so easily be me, you or someone that we know.  It’s time to get back to the basics of community.  Of unity.  Of togetherness. It’s time to bring about a change that says life is so much more than the labels on our backs.  Am I my brother’s (or sister’s) keeper?   You bet I am, and so are you.  It’s time to look each other in the eyes and acknowledge our shared struggle.  It’s time to get back to loving each other.  We can accomplish so much more unified than we can as independent agents.

The call has sounded…will you hear the call and come to action? For all the ones we’ve lost in the struggle, let’s not let their lives, their stories, their deaths be in vain.

To the parents of Michael Brown and all the others whose stories never make the news, we feel your pain.  Our hearts grieve the loss of life, just as yours does.  You are not alone.

Changing lives one word at a time….Tumika Patrice Cain

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Tumika Patrice Cain is an award-winning author, media personality, and motivational speaker. Through her imprint, Inkscriptions Publishing & Media Group, she provides high quality, affordable, mentor-based publishing services to indie authors, as well as inspired, empowering messages of hope and abundance through her media outlets. Her works can be found in many publications, including Fresh Lifestyle Magazine. To learn more about Tumika, her books, and her services visit the following websites. http://www.TumikaPatrice.com and http://www.InkscriptionsPMG.com

Feeling Blessed

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Feeling Blessed

I wrote this back in April, but through the busyness of living, I forgot to post it.  I'm sure there are many of you who can relate to the words in this post.  Know that your efforts are not in vain and that eventually you will receive back all of the positive seeds that you've sown.  Be blessed and make today a great day...ON PURPOSE!  Tumika

I am having a transparent moment right now.  This is for those people who have been selflessly giving of themselves to others for years with no real payback for those efforts.  I just want to let you know that your day IS coming.  Don’t stop doing what you’re doing.  At the appointed time, your efforts will connect with your need and all of a sudden help will come out of the woodworks for you.

This is the week of my big book signing and poetry reading.  After a number of difficulties and obstacles with my first book, I decided to take a different route with my next book.  Deciding to take my efforts to a place I love and that has always shown me love, I reached out to some friends in Cleveland.  They were not just willing to be a part of the event, they were happily willing to put in effort to help me plan it remotely, because of financial challenges I was going through at the time.

These friends who I have known for more than 15 years called in their friends, made connections, referred me to others, gave countless feedback to my many queries, and put the kind of effort into making this event wonderful, just as they would have if it had been their own.

I was out running errands and picking up items for the event.  I made a random call to the venue owner to check on something.  She answers the phone and says “Hi, Tumika.  Guess who’s right here in front of me.”  It was Vince, the host.  He was there checking out the space, doing mic checks and whatever else to make sure that all would be well for the show on Saturday.  If I hadn’t called her, I never would have known, because he would not have told me.  I immediately felt overwhelmed.  I finished my shopping, walked back to the car and then sat there for a moment. 

And I have to tell you, tears of gratitude were cascading down my cheeks.  The moment she told me he was there, I had a quick flashback of every man who had been in my life in some sort of significant role.  There was the one who faked a cold so he wouldn’t have to help me move.  The one who charged me to move.  The ones who stood me up.  Lied  to me.  Cheated on me.  Shall I go on?   In that moment, it all became so very clear.  Now mind you, this is not a man I am intimate with, nor have we ever been.  We aren’t “kicking it.”  He’s not my boo thang or any such thing.  He is my friend, and in such a simple gesture, showed more care and love for me than any of the others ever had.  Then all of a sudden, it became abundantly clear to me why none of the others made the cut.  If they weren’t ready to make selfless gestures to help the woman in their life, why were they even there?

Ladies, if the man taking up space in your life is not improving the quality of it; if he is not making sacrifices of time, talent, or treasure to help you make your dreams come true; if he has nothing more to bring to the table than a list of selfish desires and requests from you – why is he really even there?  You can do bad by yourself.  And real talk, even mind blowing sex is not enough to keep a man around if that is the only thing of value you are getting from him.  I know it gets lonely.  It gets hard, too.  For we were not built to have to be both man and woman, and our lives are far more difficult without a man there to take his proper place.  However, it is too high of a price to pay allowing someone to take up emotional and/or physical space in your life who won’t do his part.  Move that dead weight out of the way so that the real deal came come in.  You deserve a man who knows his role, who understands his purpose and who is not afraid to fulfill it.

Changing lives one word at a time…Tumika Patrice Cain

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Tumika Patrice Cain is an award-winning author, media personality, and motivational speaker. Through her imprint, Inkscriptions Publishing & Media Group, she provides high quality, affordable, mentor-based publishing services to indie authors, as well as inspired, empowering messages of hope and abundance through her media outlets. Her works can be found in many publications, including Fresh Lifestyle Magazine. To learn more about Tumika, her books, and her services visit the following websites. http://www.TumikaPatrice.com and http://www.InkscriptionsPMG.com