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Stolen Treasure
I will start off with this disclaimer: this post is NOT written in a religious or moral context.
As women we are having sex with too many men we barely know. In a time where a guy feels entitled to what is precious....and yes Beloved, your soul is precious...just because he wants it or feels entitled because he spent a few dollars on a meal, doesn't mean we need to give in. Sharing an attraction to someone is not enough to allow someone inside of you when you barely know their name, how they feel about women and specifically what they feel about you beyond the attraction.
There is more than just the joining of two bodies that takes place during intercourse....and that's any kind of intercourse. It is an exchange of energy that takes place. Your body is a portal that allows outside "stuff" to enter. Whatever negative feelings he has, especially towards women, are being pumped into your vessel.
That energy doesn't disappear at the point of orgasm. It lingers in a person's spirit long after the encounter is over, oftentimes wreaking havoc in the life of that woman.
This is not me saying don't have sex. We all have needs and how you choose to handle yours is your business. What I am saying is slow it down and really see who you are dealing with. Listen to what comes out of his mouth. Did he just refer to another woman as a b**** or whore? If he's calling you a queen but referring to other women in derogatory terms, this is clearly a guy with female issues. Is he joking about pimps and hustlers getting over on women and making light of the damage they do to women, every bell in your head should be going off. If he feels it's okay to tell a woman to shut up and suck his d***, you need to run in the opposite direction...FAST! If every conversation has him talking about what some woman has done for him or can do for him, he's a user who seeks women out to do just that.
In order to recognize this stuff you may need to spend more than the few minutes at the bar. Getting to know someone takes time. Give yourself the time you need to see who you are really dealing with.
Sex should not be a topic of conversation right away. If he's asking you when you're going to let him hit the skins, or whatever colloquialisms they use, what should stand out to you is his sense of entitlement. Notice what comes out of his mouth and his body language when you say no or you want to wait. Anything beyond "ok" or an answer in the affirmative is unacceptable.
It can be down right dangerous to be having sex with guys you don't know. There is the risk of catching a disease. And although no one talks about it much, once you're in a compromising position, it is very easy to be violated in ways you didn't expect.
The bottom line is: you matter. You are a person of great worth and value and another person doesn't have the right to strip you of that. Unfortunately, there is a breed of males who get off on doing exactly that. Protect yourself. Know your worth. Don't let anyone who is unworthy inside your temple. You deserve more....don't settle for less.
Changing lives one word at a time...Tumika Patrice Cain
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Tumika Patrice Cain is an award-winning author, media personality,
and motivational speaker. Through her imprint, Inkscriptions Publishing &
Media Group, she provides high quality, affordable, mentor-based publishing
services to indie authors, as well as inspired, empowering messages of hope and
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