Wolves in Sheep's Clothes
By nature, a man is designed to protect and provide for the
female in his life. One of the things I wish I could get across to young women
is to look at how a man treats her to determine how he feels about her. A man
who loves or cares for a female will never ask her to sell or do drugs for him,
serve jail/prison time for him, sell her body, make ‘drops,’ cook drugs, store
his illegal ‘stuff’ in or around her home, or any other thing that would
endanger her wellbeing or safety, or that would damage her soul, her
self-respect, or her self-esteem. A man will work three jobs if he has to, in
order to provide for himself and his loved ones, not use some female to come up.
Let’s not forget to mention that a man who cares for her
will not ask her to indulge in sexual acts that demean, degrade, or make her
feel ashamed or dirty. Too many of our young women are engaging in
soul-damaging acts just to have some guy in her life. But predators and
opportunists exist on every corner, in every school, in every neighborhood, on
every social media site. We’ve got to teach our girls what to look for, so that
when some smooth talking guy comes flashing his smile and selling wolf tickets,
she’ll see him for the predator that he is and run in the opposite direction,
before he ruins her life. We’ve got to do better at building and instilling a
sense of self-worth, self-esteem, and appropriate boundaries so that our ladies
aren’t so prone to tactics of the enemy who comes posting up with big muscles,
a deep voice, and talks of grandeur.
I’m not sure what’s sadder, the fact that so many young
ladies get caught up and damaged by these predators, or that the men get on
social media or with their friends and brag about what they made some girl do,
caring nothing at all for how her life has been affected by the games he plays.
After she has served her purpose in his plan, he moves on to the next prey as
if it’s no big deal. There are so many men who are not gay, but who just don’t
like women. They act out their hatred on the female species with aggression,
disrespect, and negative life altering actions. And there are so many love
starved females who take any attention shown to them as something positive. But
a predator can spot a wounded prey from miles away. He zeroes in on her like a
missile and goes in for the kill.
I know that not all men hurt or prey on women. Some men
actually chose to use their power for good. We’ve got to be able to spot the
difference between the two, so that we can teach our future generations. We’ve
got to know that it’s okay to put ourselves first and that it’s okay to say no
to that which takes us off of our moral, spiritual, ethical compass, or that
makes us not be proud of the person we see in the mirror. We’ve got to know, as
females, that we are worth it…even if it means being alone for a little while
longer. Having a piece of a man is NOT better than having no man at all…no
matter what outside influences say. We’ve got to love ourselves enough to not
throw the pearls of our lives before swine. We’ve got to know that we are worth
nothing less than the best…and then stand our ground until we get what we
deserve.
Changing lives one word at a time…Tumika
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Tumika Patrice Cain is an award-winning author, media personality,
and motivational speaker. Through her imprint, Inkscriptions Publishing &
Media Group, she provides high quality, affordable, mentor-based publishing
services to indie authors, as well as inspired, empowering messages of hope and
abundance through her media outlets. Her works can be found in many
publications, including Fresh Lifestyle Magazine. To learn more about Tumika,
her books, and her services visit the following websites. http://www.TumikaPatrice.com
and http://www.InkscriptionsPMG.com
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