Tuesday, February 7, 2017

Celebrate the Victories

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Celebrate the Victories

This message is to the destiny seekers. That valiant, brilliant group of people who want more than the status quo. This message is for you.

Dream fulfillment looks like different things to different people. No two people have exactly the same dream, and they aren’t supposed to. For each person’s journey is different, at times if only by minute portions. Even when we want something that is similar to what someone else has or is doing, it will never be exactly the same, because the nuances of our lives are not the same. It is those subtle nuances that make the difference in who we are able to reach, what we are able to do, and how we are able to do it. The nuances are part of the divine plan.

One thing that is important to know and to remember is that we are all proceeding on this journey from varied starting points. Our backgrounds, our experiences or lack thereof, our finances, our time, our obligations are not necessarily the same as the next person’s. With this in mind, all of the experiences and challenges we start with become part of the intricate weaving that will ultimately be the path we take to destiny fulfillment.

No one knows exactly what your specific situations or circumstances are…and they don’t need to. The danger in comparing yourself to someone else or letting others dictate to you how to run your race, is the fact we are not starting from the same place. The person who is not paying their own bills could potentially have far more resources available to them when it comes time to making monetary steps in the process. The person who doesn’t work may have way more time on hand than the single parent juggling three jobs to make ends meet. The empty-nester may be able to network much more than the person who is still raising small or school-aged children. My point is, start where you are.

Destiny fulfillment doesn’t just happen. It is a series of systematic steps, taken one at a time, to get you to an expected end. Each day the goal is to do something towards making your dreams come true. If all you have is an extra five minutes to spend promoting, making a connection, or doing research, that is okay. Give what you have, in the way that you can. If all you have in your budget is $5 to spare, don’t get frustrated with the smallness of the amount. Put the $5 aside and keep adding to it, knowing that every deposit adds up. Eventually, you’ll look up and have more than you realize. Never be afraid to ask someone questions or research a product or service, even if you think it’s not in your immediate future to be able to utilize it. At least by having the information on hand you’ll know what to work towards. In other words, don’t despise your day of small beginnings.

Just because the next person seems to be going at Road Runner speeds to get where they are going, doesn’t mean that you need to discount the fact that you are moving at a turtle’s pace to get to a similar end. Remember, our circumstances may not be the same as the next person’s. It’s not a competition. It’s also not a race. It’s more like a marathon. In a marathon, there are many winners. In fact, everyone who crosses the finish line is a winner, no matter how long it took him or her to get there. Each person running the distance has their own individual set of circumstances to contend with in order to make reaching the finish line a reality.

Destiny fulfillment is that way. There will be many steps to take to reach the ultimate goal. There may be setbacks, obstacles, and wrong directions taken. None of what you go through on the journey is in vain. It’s all part of the process. There are lessons to be learned in the pitfalls of life. Get what you need to get, hopefully the first time, and move on to the next series of lessons and tests life wants to throw your way.

Don’t waste your time waiting on perfect circumstances. Beloved, perfect does not exist. Start where you are with what you have available…now. The great thing about life is when you make a commitment to do a certain thing, what you need on your path appears. In fact, it’s been on your destiny path waiting on you to get there all along. As you continue to take steps, eventually you’ll cross paths with exactly what you need, at the time that you need it. Let that be an encouragement to you.

Celebrate your victories along the way. Pat yourself on the back for getting out there and doing what you can. Each day, each step, each decision that affirms the dream, puts you one step closer. At some point you’ll find that the supernatural power of God comes on your efforts to propel you farther along as you keep on the path. What does this mean for you? It means that the little money you saved will stretch farther than you thought it could. It means that resources and materials that you needed but thought you couldn’t afford will come to be within your reach. It means all the things that seemed like obstacles are no longer the roadblocks they appeared to be.

Be encouraged, Beloved, and keep doing the best you can, where you are, right now! No effort, no matter how big or how small, is in vain. You are worth the effort it takes to make your dreams come true. You are worth every step you have to make in order to fulfill the destiny that lives inside of you!


Changing lives one word at a time…Tumika Patrice Cain

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Tumika Patrice Cain is an award-winning author, media personality, and motivational speaker. Through her imprint, Inkscriptions Publishing & Media Group, she provides high quality, affordable, mentor-based publishing services to indie authors, as well as inspired, empowering messages of hope and abundance through her media outlets. Her works can be found in many publications, including Fresh Lifestyle Magazine. To learn more about Tumika, her books, and her services visit the following websites. http://www.TumikaPatrice.com and http://www.InkscriptionsPMG.com

Sunday, January 29, 2017

Stolen Treasure


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Stolen Treasure

I will start off with this disclaimer: this post is NOT written in a religious or moral context.

As women we are having sex with too many men we barely know. In a time where a guy feels entitled to what is precious....and yes Beloved, your soul is precious...just because he wants it or feels entitled because he spent a few dollars on a meal, doesn't mean we need to give in. Sharing an attraction to someone is not enough to allow someone inside of you when you barely know their name, how they feel about women and specifically what they feel about you beyond the attraction.

There is more than just the joining of two bodies that takes place during intercourse....and that's any kind of intercourse. It is an exchange of energy that takes place. Your body is a portal that allows outside "stuff" to enter. Whatever negative feelings he has, especially towards women, are being pumped into your vessel.

That energy doesn't disappear at the point of orgasm. It lingers in a person's spirit long after the encounter is over, oftentimes wreaking havoc in the life of that woman.

This is not me saying don't have sex. We all have needs and how you choose to handle yours is your business. What I am saying is slow it down and really see who you are dealing with. Listen to what comes out of his mouth. Did he just refer to another woman as a b**** or whore? If he's calling you a queen but referring to other women in derogatory terms, this is clearly a guy with female issues. Is he joking about pimps and hustlers getting over on women and making light of the damage they do to women, every bell in your head should be going off. If he feels it's okay to tell a woman to shut up and suck his d***, you need to run in the opposite direction...FAST! If every conversation has him talking about what some woman has done for him or can do for him, he's a user who seeks women out to do just that.

In order to recognize this stuff you may need to spend more than the few minutes at the bar. Getting to know someone takes time. Give yourself the time you need to see who you are really dealing with.

Sex should not be a topic of conversation right away. If he's asking you when you're going to let him hit the skins, or whatever colloquialisms they use, what should stand out to you is his sense of entitlement. Notice what comes out of his mouth and his body language when you say no or you want to wait. Anything beyond "ok" or an answer in the affirmative is unacceptable.

It can be down right dangerous to be having sex with guys you don't know. There is the risk of catching a disease. And although no one talks about it much, once you're in a compromising position, it is very easy to be violated in ways you didn't expect.

The bottom line is: you matter. You are a person of great worth and value and another person doesn't have the right to strip you of that. Unfortunately, there is a breed of males who get off on doing exactly that. Protect yourself. Know your worth. Don't let anyone who is unworthy inside your temple. You deserve more....don't settle for less.

Changing lives one word at a time...Tumika Patrice Cain


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Tumika Patrice Cain is an award-winning author, media personality, and motivational speaker. Through her imprint, Inkscriptions Publishing & Media Group, she provides high quality, affordable, mentor-based publishing services to indie authors, as well as inspired, empowering messages of hope and abundance through her media outlets. Her works can be found in many publications, including Fresh Lifestyle Magazine. To learn more about Tumika, her books, and her services visit the following websites. http://www.TumikaPatrice.com and http://www.InkscriptionsPMG.com

Saturday, August 6, 2016

Wolves in Sheep's Clothing

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Wolves in Sheep's Clothes

By nature, a man is designed to protect and provide for the female in his life. One of the things I wish I could get across to young women is to look at how a man treats her to determine how he feels about her. A man who loves or cares for a female will never ask her to sell or do drugs for him, serve jail/prison time for him, sell her body, make ‘drops,’ cook drugs, store his illegal ‘stuff’ in or around her home, or any other thing that would endanger her wellbeing or safety, or that would damage her soul, her self-respect, or her self-esteem. A man will work three jobs if he has to, in order to provide for himself and his loved ones, not use some female to come up.
Let’s not forget to mention that a man who cares for her will not ask her to indulge in sexual acts that demean, degrade, or make her feel ashamed or dirty. Too many of our young women are engaging in soul-damaging acts just to have some guy in her life. But predators and opportunists exist on every corner, in every school, in every neighborhood, on every social media site. We’ve got to teach our girls what to look for, so that when some smooth talking guy comes flashing his smile and selling wolf tickets, she’ll see him for the predator that he is and run in the opposite direction, before he ruins her life. We’ve got to do better at building and instilling a sense of self-worth, self-esteem, and appropriate boundaries so that our ladies aren’t so prone to tactics of the enemy who comes posting up with big muscles, a deep voice, and talks of grandeur.


I’m not sure what’s sadder, the fact that so many young ladies get caught up and damaged by these predators, or that the men get on social media or with their friends and brag about what they made some girl do, caring nothing at all for how her life has been affected by the games he plays. After she has served her purpose in his plan, he moves on to the next prey as if it’s no big deal. There are so many men who are not gay, but who just don’t like women. They act out their hatred on the female species with aggression, disrespect, and negative life altering actions. And there are so many love starved females who take any attention shown to them as something positive. But a predator can spot a wounded prey from miles away. He zeroes in on her like a missile and goes in for the kill.
I know that not all men hurt or prey on women. Some men actually chose to use their power for good. We’ve got to be able to spot the difference between the two, so that we can teach our future generations. We’ve got to know that it’s okay to put ourselves first and that it’s okay to say no to that which takes us off of our moral, spiritual, ethical compass, or that makes us not be proud of the person we see in the mirror. We’ve got to know, as females, that we are worth it…even if it means being alone for a little while longer. Having a piece of a man is NOT better than having no man at all…no matter what outside influences say. We’ve got to love ourselves enough to not throw the pearls of our lives before swine. We’ve got to know that we are worth nothing less than the best…and then stand our ground until we get what we deserve.


Changing lives one word at a time…Tumika

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Tumika Patrice Cain is an award-winning author, media personality, and motivational speaker. Through her imprint, Inkscriptions Publishing & Media Group, she provides high quality, affordable, mentor-based publishing services to indie authors, as well as inspired, empowering messages of hope and abundance through her media outlets. Her works can be found in many publications, including Fresh Lifestyle Magazine. To learn more about Tumika, her books, and her services visit the following websites. http://www.TumikaPatrice.com and http://www.InkscriptionsPMG.com